Every living person is in one way or another, a victim of control of one sort or another, and most of us inwardly yearn to be in control, at least of ourselves, and ultimately, of our own destinies, and those that seek to influence it. Given the centrality of the issue of control to our daily survival, it is imperative to understand that the only thing over which we have complete control is our perspective, and that a first step to conquering our circumstances and overcoming our challenges, is to empower our perspective.
The critical issue of “control” is so embedded in the motivation of human behavior that it straddles the spectrum of the desirable, on one hand, and the undesirable on the other hand. The mastery of control of self, or self-control is a widely acclaimed virtue, whereas an obsession in controlling others is seen as a detestable vice. And yet, somewhere in the middle, the ability to chart one’s destiny and make positive things happen, relies, at least in part, on our ability to control our circumstances and those people that are essential to it.
Give this some thought. We often think of a little baby as being helpless, and to a great extent that is true. But does that negate the desire and ability of the newborn to act in a controlling manner? I guess its poor mother does not even realize what’s happening, but pretty soon the baby learns that by crying and shedding crocodile tears, it can summon its mother to its side at will, even when he or she is not hungry, neither wet nor pooped, not in pain, but just a bit lonely. Now I agree that not ever baby enjoys the luxury of having even one parent with enough time to be spare to be controlled. But does that derail the baby on its control expedition? Certainly not.
Most little children that I have researched do not need to be taught to control what belongs to them, and in some cases, even what does not belong to them.
To be Continued: